In Their Own Words. . . Birth Mothers share their personal experiences
Dianna's Story
How can I explain to you how it is to give my unborn child up for adoption? I have to be honest; it won't be one little bit easy. For me, it was the hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life. I will try to explain my experience with adoption. The day I decided to do adoption I called quite a few agencies. I could tell by the tone of their voices that they weren't for me. Then I called Joanne; just by the softness and kindness in her voice, I knew that I could work with her.
So the day I met her I was so nervous and scared. But she came to my home and she was kind and patient with me. She allowed me to take my time to grow closer to her. Never once did I feel pressured to do or say anything that made me uncomfortable. Never once did she make me feel like I was wrong in what I was doing. She was always understanding. The way I felt was that she had been in my shoes. After all is said and done, I knew I had made the right decision for my baby, for myself and for choosing Adoptions; Advocacy & Alternatives.
Sarah's Story
There is no way in the world that I could ever thank you enough. You have been amazing. I could not have done this without you. And thank you for my daughter's adoptive parents. She has the very best parents possible to find ! What a relief it is to know that my daughter is very much loved. Than you for everything you have done. I could not have done this without you!
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Spring's Story
My husband and I have a very healthy relationship. The love we share is best described in fairy tales, two who have found each other across the ages and are more in love every day. We share two beautiful children, a son and daughter who are very close in age. When we found out that we were expecting a third child when our oldest was not quite two, we were not exactly excited about having three in diapers. After much consideration about the impact a third child would have on our situation, we decided that we would look into adoption and see if we could find a couple that we felt would raise a child in a similar manner to us. We had no idea if we could find such a couple. .................. I was amazed to find Dan and Alisa on an online site for adoptive family profiles. They were just what we were looking for, and the only family out of hundreds I read to feel right! .................We had a home birth with our other two children and wanted to have that same type of atmosphere for this birth. Guess what? The ladies at Adoptions AA worked that out too! Our birth experience was just as beautiful for this birth as it was for our other children. We had a midwife, and with her assistance we were able to have this wonderful little child in a setting that allowed the adoptive couple to be an integral part of their daughter’s birth. It was really something indescribable in words. Everyone that was there was very supportive of us. No one ever felt like a stranger, and then at the birth we all were there to welcome this little person into a loving world. Her beginning was celebrated. She opened her eyes for the first time and saw her adoptive mother and father before seeing anything else. It’s not blood that makes a family; it’s love. To simultaneously give birth, witness Molly’s birth, and the birth of her family was surreal. It made everything fully come together for my husband and me. We knew completely that all was as it was supposed to be at that moment.......................We were never just birthparents. We were a family, getting to know new friends and their families. There was genuine care about all of us. That’s something you can’t fake, especially day in and day out for a month. We always had the option to change our mind about adoption, and I believe that even if we had second thoughts and changed our minds we still would have walked away with friends and the blessing of everyone. No pressure, no worries, just love and compassion. Life is a precious gift. Being able to enjoy that gift has been a blessing for us. Being able to share the gift of life with another loving couple has been just as great a blessing. My husband and I both feel that we are richer people after the last year’s events. We look forward to returning to Colorado one day and again enjoying the company of Joanne, Jude, Tammy, and Jean. We look forward to visiting with Dan and Alisa and letting our children play together, and enjoying the laughter and love that only children can bring. Life’s treasures can be found in any situation, if only you look for them…